Muscatine

Now that I have read everybody's posts, I have to reply.

Schools influence: My youngest son got into trouble in grade school. The teacher called me and told me of the instance. It was something ridiculous, so I just passed it off. The next day, the teacher took my son into another room and drilled him on what kind of punishment he got. He lied and said he got grounded, just to shut her up (he didn't get any punishment). So what's up with that? This same teacher did this through out the whole year.

Many people have told me that they wanted kids just like mine. Well behaved, well mannered, polite, and RESPECTFUL to adults. My boys were raised to say " yes maam and yes sir".....one teacher accused one of my sons for being a smart a$$ when he told her yes maam.

My boys learned quick that they could get away with a lot more being at school than being at home. So the battle was on. I couldn't understand why my boys acted like that at school, and totally different at home. I even told every teacher that I would back them in any disciplinary action. They still kept calling me, wanting me to work miracles with DHS hanging over my head (meaning the first teacher who interogated my kid). Since my boys have graduated, they have become different men. I had a sigh of relief when each of them got out of the school system. Did I spank my kids? You bet. I even booted them out when they was 18. Made men out of them. And they tell me that they will raise their kids the same way I raised them, and thanked me for raising them the way I did.

So, therefore, I only had trouble with my boys when they were in the school system, and yes, they learn all about DHS. And just to let you parents know who have the screaming kid in a resturaunt, Walmart, or Hyvee, the people who look at you think you are idiots and your kids are not cute and we do not sympathize with you. Leave your kids at home, or take them to the bathroom and give them a swat. PLEASE.

 

P.S.The only good teacher at MHS is Mr. T. I was amazed that other teachers had a problem with my boy, but Mr. T. didn't. He can make men out of boys and does an awesome job about teaching them respect and how to act like gentlemen. Many teachers could learn a good lesson from this man. Once Mr. T knew he had my backing, he took my son and made a knowledgable, smart, respectful man out of my son. Mr.T didn't call me whinning and moaning. He took action and I give him a lot of credit for the way my son is today. Too bad other teachers can't be like him. He has a way to get kids' respect without having them kiss his a$$.

I have a child that goes to west to respond to the earlier post about the fight in which the boys held the other down and kicked him sending him to the hospital. The boy did NOT go to the hospital, he made that up so that others would feel sorry for him. He had a small bruise only. It wasnt right that there was fighting going on, but it also wasnt right that this boy lied about going to the hospital to seem cool. There is no punishment for kids acting out in school today. The kids that were doing drugs and drinking at west were not even suspended but allowed to remain in class with all the others and the popular census among their class mates were that they were pretty cool for what they did. Look at Myspace profiles for these kids, it will tell all. If you are an attentive parent, you will unbury your head out of the sand and take a proactive effort to school yourself on what your child is up to, and even though the courts are on the childs side and parents are no longer able to have any say so, you have to try and change that by realizing that kids KNOW this and will push their limits. In my day a fight at school caused a 3 day out of school suspension and even smoking was a 5 day and a class  at new horizons, yet we have 12yr olds smoking weed in the rest room and they get what??? even cooler in the other 12 yr olds eyes.

In response to Joey, I think sometimes all kids are not treated the same with punishment at school.  When my middle child was at West, a kid punched him in the locker room.  My husband told him to always defend himself (this had happened the year before outside after school). So, he punched the kid back.  My child defended a special needs kid in the class before gym and told the other kid to leave him alone. I guess the kid didn't like being told not to bully another.  When I had to go in and talk to the Assistant Principal, I was told all Mothers think they know their kids and that maybe my son threw the first punch.  I do know my son and I also know the other kid.  When I used to volunteer at the grade school, the other kid had to be held in a room with three teachers holding the door because he was threatening them with language most adults don't use.  Needless to say, my son got three days in school suspension. 

 

I really don't believe in out of school suspension, they should be given in school suspension, and instead of locking them in a quiet room where they can't talk or do anything but homework they should be out scrubbing the floors with a toothbrush or cleaning up the lawn or some type of real punishment (chores)  for their actions. When they are sent home, their parents have to work and they get a free vacation, how is that teaching these kids right from wrong?

When I went to Jefferson, I was out of line I was sent to Mr. Chamberlin's office, guess what, I got spanked with a paddle, I swear I never was out of line again while he was there, even when they changed the laws and they where no longer allowed to do that I still didn't get out of line, because it scared the hell out of me.

Jr. high and High School I spent a lot of time sitting in in-school suspension and even then it never made me really care or think about my actions and when I was so bad that I got sent home for out of school suspension I got to lay around and watch tv, eat all the snack food I wanted, played on the computer, did whatever I wanted to do.

Anyways this is just my thoughts on the whole suspension thing.