Sacramento Head Start Alumni Association

12 Practical Tips To Help Those Facing A Serious Illness

Dec 25, 2002

1. Don't avoid me. Be the friend-the loved one you've always been.
2.Touch me. A simple squeeze of my hand can tell me you still care.
3.Call me to tell me you're bringing my favorite dish and what time you are coming.Bring food in disposable containers so I don't worry about returns.
4.Take care of my children for me. I need a little time to be alone with my loved one. My children may need a little vacation from my illness.
5.Weep with me when I weep.Laugh with me when I laugh. Don't be afraid to share with me.
6.Take me out for a pleasure trip, but know my limitations.
7.Call me for my shopping list and make a "special"delivery to my home.
8.Call me before you visit, don't be afraid to visit. I am lonely. I need you.
9.Help me celebrate holidays(and life) by decorating my hospital room or home, or bringing me a tiny gift of flowers or other natural resources.
10.Help my family. I am sick, but they may be suffering. Offer to stay with me to give my loved ones a break. Invite them out. Take them places.
11. Be creative! Bring me a book of thoughts, taped music, a poster for my wall, cookies to share with my family-friends, an old friend who hasn't come to visit me.
12.Let's talk about it. Maybe I need to talk about my illness. Find out by asking me, "Do you feel like talking about it?"...Don't always feel we have to talk. We can sit silently together.

Submitted in memory of Frank La Point.